“Heartbreak is part of the human condition—if it comes off the table, so does love itself. Vulnerability is what makes life worth living; without it, we’d lack meaning and purpose.” ~ Douglas Brooks
Beyond the obvious and devastatingly tragic loss of a loved one through death, loss and its associated grief can be experienced when you:
In the death of a loved one, there are established rituals and expected support that help you move through the grieving process. But when it comes to loss that doesn’t involve death, the deep grief and struggle that follows, the space and time to heal and understand the pain, grief and lessons are rarely embraced. Even though loss of any kind can profoundly impact your sense of place in the world and your feeling of well-being, you are often expected to simply pick up the pieces of your life and ‘soldier on’ soon after the experience.
Loss is a multi-layered trauma that endures beyond the actual event. It also takes a complex emotional toll that emerges from the deeper effects of loss over time that include issues of self-worth, identity, problems with trust, safety and security, the challenges of rebuilding shattered hopes, dreams and sense of personal purpose. If it is a debilitating illness or mental health problem, it can steal your independence and isolate you from community.
8. Forgive: Healing involves forgiveness of self and others for the loss. Seek support in such processes as Breathwork or counseling to help you release guilt, shame, self-judgment /criticism and to let go of any blame and resentment toward others. Affirmations and forgiveness mediations are useful to help in this release process.
9. Grief is love. Consider that the grief over your loss could not have happened if you had not loved what you lost. Acknowledge your deep connection and love to your loss and accept the privilege of having experienced that depth of love in the first place.
The grieving process is a necessary and unique bridge to healing that helps you cope with uninvited change and that joins your loss to a transformed future.
When loss of any kind is experienced, your heart can break wide open. Through the grieving process, you can heal and find a new way for your life. In the end, it adds to your awareness, understanding and compassion and can be the catalyst for your own growth and a richer connection to others.
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What ways have you handled grief and loss in your life? Feel free to leave a comment and share with others your thoughts on ways to deal with grief and loss.