Anger is a river. It wants to be released into the vaster ocean. It wants to move naturally. When we repress it with premature forgiveness, block it with false positivity, repress it in the name of pseudo-peace, we just dam(n) our natural flow ~ Jeff Brown
Anger has been described in primarily negative terms in our culture and is often an emotion that carries an outcome of punishment attached to it. It is a primal instinct that in mankind’s early evolution was a healthy response to danger.
Even though anger has its roots in being one of many healthy and normal human emotion, it can also be both hurtful and destructive. The headlines are overflowing with reports of war, gang violence, domestic violence, torture and murder that are the result of some level of anger that has spilled over into harmful action. At the heart of angry behavior there is often fear of losing control of a situation or a repression of expression that can be physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. Without some level of boundary, anger can become destructive and can wreak havoc at work, in your relationships and in your everyday life.
The Value of Anger
Anger is an unpleasant feeling if you are on the receiving end of it and can feel overwhelmingly powerful if you are expressing it but it is not necessarily completely negative. When channeled in the right direction, however, it can be used for productive purposes. It can be personally empowering and can provide a channel for self-expression that is both necessary and commanding. If you pay attention to your ‘anger moments’ they can support you to:
Constructive Ways to Channel Anger
You can develop certain skills to keep a check on your anger and learn how to channel its forceful energy in healthy and positive ways:
The skills to deal with anger constructively can be hard to learn, but they open up a broader perspective and induce empathy and personal growth. The outcomes are well worth the effort and vigilance.
Be well, Breathe Inner Calm